MEDIATION

In my practice, I have tried to maintain a delicate balance between empathising with my clients and remaining true to my calling as a Mediator who is a 'neutral facilitator' that helps the parties to decide how to solve their problem. Sometimes, empathy can encroach into the terrain of 'neutrality' and 'professionalism'.

What has been your experience?

Related Links

*Mediation Books: Recommended from Edwards Mediation Academy   ow.ly/iK8350AVxBr

*Women in Mediation: Reflections, Challenges & Opportunities   https://hubs.li/HOsYD7JO

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